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The Power of Asking – Community video post by @6aliens

It’s been an amazing fortnight here at Give A Brick. An update on just how wonderful will be coming up tomorrow but today we have our first ever community video post. It’s by the lovely Ben Lumley from and if you’ve not already done so, you should check out his blog or go and say hello to him on Twitter. It would be fair to say that it was Ben who encouraged me to publish the wish list (which if you’ve not seen yet, you really should after this post. There’s still loads to do!) and no, it doesn’t just apply to charitable organisations. As I said to my friend Liz (“Hi Liz!”) anyone and every one can ask for what they need.

But without any more delay, Ben it’s over to you:

So what are you waiting for? Go on! Ask for something today. Speaking of which, I have a special asks this fine day.

10 Responses to The Power of Asking – Community video post by @6aliens
  1. Paul
    April 22, 2010 | 3:31 pm

    Ben, a great post with a simple and straight forward message; if you want something ask for it. I understand fully your comments about how we’ve been conditioned as children and young people, to ask a limited number of questions, after all we didn’t want to make things too difficult for the ‘big people’.

    You may be aware of the phrase, “children should be seen and not heard”; I’ve lost count of the number of times I heard this as a small child. The phrase itself can have a devastating effect on your life and belief system. Imagine having to grow up with it!

    Good stuff and thanks for sharing it.


    • Ben
      April 22, 2010 | 7:40 pm

      Great to see you here Paul.

      Conditioning is so important to us isn’t it Paul. The key for us to remember that it isn’t our conditioning that makes the difference in our lives but the decision we make about that conditioning.

  2. Dr Egg
    April 22, 2010 | 8:07 pm

    Ah the Buddhist quoting the Bible – love it! Interestingly, as I listened to you and thought about that quote, it begged the question to me, “Ask and you shall receive what?” So I took a look at the bible (online of course at: Blue Letter Bible. “Dictionary and Word Search for ‘ask and you will receive’ in the NIV”. Blue Letter Bible. 1996-2010. 22 Apr 2010.) This confirmed what I thought. It does not say what. As I reflected on what you were saying Ben, it occurred to me that this fitted very well with what you were saying, “Ask and you will receive an answer”. The answer could be, “Yes”, “No” or “Wait as I can’t give an answer yet”. But unless you ask, you will not get that answer. As you’ve said, take that first step and answer. “No” can sometimes be the best answer, particularly if it comes with an explanation e.g. “There is a better way and I would advise that . . . .” But unless you ask, you will not receive an answer.

    Thanks very much for posting in video – It’s great to meet people in the flesh. I’ll have to have a go!

    • Ben
      April 22, 2010 | 8:56 pm

      One of my favourite thinker Dr Egg is Jim Rohn. He always said that really the quote should be “Ask ‘intelligently’ and you shall receive”

      The real trick with asking questions is asking intelligent questions.

      • Dr Egg
        April 22, 2010 | 9:12 pm

        Interesting how we can take a different slant on language. I think that asking the dumb question, the naive question or the question nobody ever want to ask (the elephant in the room type question) often provokes the debate and provides for a more rounded answer. I regularly use that technique in my work, to good effect I believe (but I would say that wouldn’t I?). However, that is off the point of course because the asking you were referring to related to the wish list issue that you brain stormed with El and was for “things” rather than asking as in making an enquiry. What you and she did in that short period of time was nothing short of wonderful for Give a Brick. It has been fabulous to watch the community engagement and the fact that we now have a virtual team of people behind the charity is something we will be celebrating on Sunday when we have one of the regular trustees meetings.

  3. ayo
    April 22, 2010 | 8:21 pm

    hi ben,
    now i know why you are a great motivational speaker.
    you are so comfortable and relaxed behind the camera.
    The message is straight to the point and you are right asking brings rewards but the fear of failure, rejection sets in which makes us fearful.
    nice one ben!!
    .-= ayo´s last blog ..40 Benefits Of Happiness =-.

    • Ben
      April 22, 2010 | 8:58 pm

      Ah thanks Ayo that’s really nice of you to say.

      The thing about the “fear” is that very rarely is it actually justified. Thanks for stopping in Ayo

  4. Eleanor
    April 22, 2010 | 11:22 pm

    I just wanted to thank you again Ben for teaching me the power of asking. You took what was effectively me having a moan and turned it on it’s head into something wonderful. And I agree with the guys ahead of me, you should definitely do more of these video posts. They’re great :D

    • Ben
      April 23, 2010 | 6:16 am

      It was my pleasure El. Thank you for letting me do it

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